Rules for the Date
Every Introductress date runs on the same basic expectations, for the client and the referred friend alike. Here's exactly what they are, and what happens if either side doesn't hold up their end.
WHY THIS PAGE EXISTS
A good date depends on both people showing up honestly and treating each other with basic respect. This page lays out exactly what that means in practice, not as a vague suggestion, but as the actual standard both people agree to by participating in an Introductress date.
Everything on this page applies equally to both people. The client and the referred friend each have the same right to feel safe, treated honestly, and free to leave.
THE RULES
These apply to both the client and the referred friend, no exceptions:
Public meeting only: The date happens at the agreed public venue, nothing else. Neither person should suggest or pressure the other into moving the date somewhere private or unplanned.
Arrival: Clients are expected to arrive within 20 minutes of the scheduled time. If a client hasn't arrived within that window, the referred friend is free to leave.
Sobriety and conduct: Clients should not arrive visibly intoxicated, or drink excessively during the date. Respectful, sober conduct is expected throughout.
Respect: Hostility or deliberately trying to make the date unpleasant isn't acceptable.
No harassment or inappropriate behavior: This includes unwanted sexual advances, offensive language, invasive or inappropriate personal questions, and any hostility directed at the referred friend.
No physical boundary violations: Unwanted touching, cornering, or continuing physical contact after being asked to stop is never acceptable, under any circumstances.
No photos or recordings: Respect for privacy is important and it includes not recording the other person, neither video nor voice.
Honest representation: Both client and referred friend should match their approved profile, including photos, age, and any non-negotiable facts they've stated (such as marital status). Significant, verified misrepresentation is treated as a serious violation.
No information exchange: This is an important rule for safety and to avoid awkwardness. No contact or personal information is to be exchanged during the date. After the date, we will touch base with both and, if both agree, we will share the contact information so the relationship may progress forward.
Freedom to leave, always: Either person can end the date at any time, for any reason. The reason may affect how the date is recorded for payment purposes behind the scenes (see our Payment & Cancellation Policy)
WHAT COUNTS AS A VIOLATION THAT LETS SOMEONE LEAVE IMMEDIATELY
| If this happens... | The other person can... |
|---|---|
| Intoxicated, harasses, or crosses a physical boundary | End the date immediately |
| Significantly misrepresents who they are | End the date immediately |
| Disrespectful, hostile, or makes the other feel unsafe | End the date immediately |
| Tries to move the date somewhere private or unplanned | End the date immediately |
A genuine, good-faith mismatch is not the same as a violation. Not clicking, an awkward conversation, or simply not being each other's type isn't a rule violation for either person. It's just a normal outcome of a blind date, and either person is free to end it early for that reason too, without it being treated as anything other than a completed attempt at a good match.
WHAT TO DO IF SOMETHING GOES WRONG
If a violation happens, or something just feels off:
- You can leave immediately. You never need to wait, explain yourself in the moment, or try to smooth things over first.
- Report it as soon as you're able to. For safety-related violations, reporting sooner helps us respond quickly, but there's no wrong time to report something, even if it's later than you'd have liked. If you can, bring it to the attention of the staff at the restaurant.
- We take it from there. Our Trust & Safety team reviews every report and follows the process outlined in our Trust Center.
A NOTE FOR CLIENTS AND REFERRED FRIENDS ALIKE
These rules exist to make sure a blind date, meeting a stranger for the first time, feels as safe and fair as it possibly can. They're not about assuming the worst of anyone. Most dates on Introductress go completely fine, and these rules are here for the moments when something doesn't, so both people know exactly where they stand.
RELATED POLICIES
- Read our Safety Policy →
- Read our Cupid Code of Conduct →
- Read our Payment & Cancellation Policy →
- Visit our Trust Center →
